Close your eyes and imagine this: a stereotypical high school girl that you've seen in a dozen movies; the girl that everyone wants to be. What does she look like? How does she act? She's probably a blonde, long-legged mean girl with, what appears to be, killer confidence, and a mini skirt.
Now, let me put more of a realistic spin on the story. She's really average height, her hair probably isn't bombshell blonde, and because we do have an established dress code, her shorts are slightly longer than mini and her shirt is just long enough to not necessarily be considered “cropped.” She's what you call...popular? And by popular, I mean she's got an inbox full of “DM's” and a social media friends list the length of my left arm. And yes, the confidence, it doesn't seem to be lacking. Sounds glorious, right?... Somewhere a record disk just spun to a stop and made the sound effect of “erk.” I'm about to tell you why I feel sorry for these girls.
While the attention seeking has seemed to pay off with an array of notifications coming through on her phone, they are meaningless. I say this because this girl that seems so confident, and so popular, and so well liked, surprise, surprise, isn't. People may not dislike her. Sure, they may even like her, but not in the way they portray. This girl has devoted so much energy into seeking out attention to **gasp** fill a void in her life, that she no longer has standards of how she's treated or who surrounds her. She only cares about the attention, good or bad, and she doesn't even realize it.
You’re now probably wondering what you can do to help these girls or to prevent either yourself or someone you care about from falling into this category. The trick is to lift each other up and feel good about yourself. As a girl that doesn’t thrive off of attention provided by others, social assets of life aren’t always easy, because people like to have others thrive on the attention they provide. In the end, however, when you don’t let the attention from others control your happiness, you become a happier person. If you know someone that has lowered the standard of how they are treated or who they surround themselves with, because they are primarily concerned about the amount of attention they get, all you can do is lift them up with your words and actions. Show them that they are worth more than the way they are being treated. With your friendship, you have the ability to show them that quality is greater than quantity.
By: Madison Moser